I’m sitting in the back seat of a cab with my wife and a baby girl in the passenger seat.
She’s a tiny little girl, about two months old.
My wife and I are driving to visit her parents.
When we arrive at the destination, we’re both relieved to see that the road is empty.
It’s a great day for us.
I know what you’re thinking: I’m going to miss it.
My mother and I live in New Jersey, which is a big state.
But there’s nothing like going to the beach, swimming, and hiking, and the baby girl is the perfect person for the family.
That’s the joy of a new pregnancy.
It gives you an opportunity to be more active.
And then there’s the baby.
I’m in the middle of a busy pregnancy, and this time of year, the road trip feels like an opportunity for me to be out and about and enjoy the sunshine.
But this time, the baby is waiting in the cab.
She wants to be left alone.
That makes sense.
As I sit in the car with the baby, I can’t help but think of all the things I would do differently.
But it’s a part of the experience, and it makes me want to be a better parent.
So how do you stay calm?
I’m not saying I need to cry, or be sad, or feel sad.
That wouldn’t be the best way to express my feelings.
But I’m aware that I’m feeling so stressed out.
I try to keep myself as calm as possible, but I do feel that if I let go of my anger, it might become too much for me.
My thoughts are often about the baby and her future.
Sometimes I have this sense of helplessness.
It seems like a burden on me, so I’m trying to figure out what I’m supposed to do.
I’ve noticed that my anger tends to get the better of me.
But when I’m calm, my anger dissipates.
I can be very quiet, and I can see that my mind is focused on the baby instead of the road.
When I’m on the road, I try not to get distracted by the road or by other people.
I just try to be aware of the fact that I have to be careful.
If you can’t do that, you’ll end up driving yourself crazy.
And sometimes you’ll need to be extra cautious because you’re worried about the little baby.
But if you can take the stress and the pain out of it, you might find yourself smiling more.
Sometimes, it’s nice to be in a calm moment.
I like to take a moment to appreciate the moment, like when I sit next to my newborn daughter.
I think that’s really helpful, because it gives me some peace of mind, and maybe helps me be more mindful about my own emotional state.
You can also keep yourself grounded.
If the stress becomes too much, try to just relax.
If that doesn’t work, ask for help.
You don’t need to get emotional or cry.
You just need to ask for advice and help.
For instance, I’ve recently had an emotional crisis that required me to take her to the hospital.
The nurse said she couldn’t take the time to go over the details of the situation.
I thought to myself, That’s a terrible idea.
I need more time to think about this.
But as I was talking to her, I realized she was right.
That was when I realized that I needed to get her to a doctor.
So instead of crying, I just thought about what to say.
“Mommy, I think I need you to take the baby to the doctor.
I don’t want to upset her or make her cry.
I want to make her feel comfortable and to relax.
What do you think?”
I asked the nurse.
“Well, I’d like to know what the best course of action is,” she said.
“You’re the mom.
You’re responsible for your child.
And you can be there for her.
And that’s fine.
And it’s also very important that she’s comfortable with what you want her to do, what she wants to feel.
So I’d be glad to go with the course of events.
But you need to find the right person to help you.
For me, I’m so grateful that my husband is the best dad I could hope for.
He’s always there for me and gives me the comfort and security that I need.
So it’s important that we find the person who can really give me that, someone who’s really experienced, who’s caring and can really get me through the day.
It doesn’t matter if it’s an emotional support person or a doctor, if they’re really experienced and know how to deal with these things, I could find someone that’s the right fit for me in this situation.
There’s a big difference between an emotional therapist and a professional.