When you think of having a child, you probably picture the parents holding hands, smiling broadly at one another and telling you everything will be all right.
You might also think about a couple with a kid that looks like they might have a very, very rare genetic condition that prevents them from having a baby at all.
You probably think of the parents being held by a hospital staff member with a big smile on their face, telling you they’re all right and then telling you how excited they are to get their first child.
But it’s a very different experience to actually being born, and the first stage of birth is actually the hardest part.
And it’s something you’ll probably never forget.
“It’s the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do,” says Anna Zavala, the CEO of The Family Planning Clinic at New York City’s Weill Cornell Medical Center.
The Family Planning clinic, a clinic in Manhattan, operates out of a small office in the heart of Manhattan’s financial district.
It’s a three-story, glass-and-steel building on a busy corner of the city that is a magnet for tourists and passersby, a place to walk down the street and stop for a quick coffee or take a quick stroll around.
When Zavalia started working at the clinic, she says, the staff was all white and all white women.
The staff had a kind of monochrome approach, where they would just look at you and not really say much.
“You’d just look, and they’d look at your eyes and say, ‘You’re okay, that’s fine.'”
That changed with the rise of online birth control and a new generation of women, who wanted to have children as soon as possible and wanted to feel like they could control the timing and the length of their period.
“Women today are a lot more connected and more connected than they were even 15 or 20 years ago,” Zavila says.
“And so they have a lot of control over how they’re going to have the baby.”
Zavala’s clinic opened in 2004, just as the birth control pill was being released, and today it is the largest provider of birth control in the country.
She tells me that even though she’s in her early 50s, she’s never had an abortion.
“I don’t feel the need to go and have an abortion because I’ve got the time,” Zafala says.
Zavila started working for the clinic as an obstetrician in 2005 and now she has over 25 years experience in the field.
She also has a long-standing interest in childbirth and she’s a proponent of a second stage of pregnancy.
“First stage of labor is the most important thing,” Zava says.
“The first stage is the very, VERY, VERY painful part,” she adds.
“It’s a scary time.”
A second stage can be really, really, super painful,” she says.
The two-stage procedure involves the delivery of a baby via Cesarean section, which involves inserting a catheter through the birth canal, or the cervix, and then passing the baby through a small incision, or fistula, into the uterus.
The process can take about 30 minutes, but the longer it takes, the longer the labor can be.”
When I first started, I used to take about 20 hours to get to this stage, which was the most painful part of labor,” Zana says.
In the new world of the internet and the advent of birth tracking, that number is getting shorter and shorter, so Zavalas goal now is to get pregnant within three months.
“I’m not sure if it’s just because of the Internet or what, but a lot [of women] are more willing to do the second stage.””
When I was a doula, I saw a lot fewer people,” Zvazana says, laughing.
“I’m not sure if it’s just because of the Internet or what, but a lot [of women] are more willing to do the second stage.”
Zava has a lot to offer in her clinic, which she calls “the most successful birth control clinic in New York.”
“Our staff is very, extremely well trained and I can tell you they really care about their patients,” she tells me.
“They care about how well you’re feeling.
They care about the health of the baby.
They really want you to feel happy, healthy, and excited about the next chapter of your pregnancy.”
She explains that she sees the birth center as a place where women can come together and share their stories, share their concerns, and feel free to ask questions and share stories.
The women who come to the clinic are often there for the birth experience as well.
“There’s a really high expectation for women to have a good experience,” Zva says.
Zavla says she’s received more than 500 calls from women who wanted birth control, but also from